How Do You Get Narcissists To Care About Other People?

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Narcissists are notoriously bad at empathizing, often to the detriment of their personal and professional relationships. So how do you get an egoist to imagine himself in someone else's shoes? Believe it or not, it could be as simple as asking him to do just that.

Over at The Atlantic, Olga Khazan reports that psychologists have long regarded sub-clinical narcissists (i.e., otherwise functional people who just happen to be very narcissistic, as opposed to mentally ill people clinically diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder) as "largely incorrigible." That is to say, "there was nothing we could do to help them be more empathetic." But the results of a newly published study led by University of Surrey psychologist Erica Hepper suggest that getting narcissists to feel other people's pain could be as easy as asking them to imagine that they're the ones suffering. In fact, this tactic had the best results in the most narcissistic people. Writes Khazan:

Hepper and her co-authors asked a group of 95 female undergrads to take [a narcissism quiz], and then later to watch a 10-minute documentary about Susan, a victim of spousal abuse. Half were told to try to put themselves in Susan's shoes ("Imagine how Susan feels. Try to take her perspective in the video..."), while the others were told to imagine they were watching the program on TV one evening.

The subjects who were told to take Susan's perspective were significantly more likely to score higher on empathy. In fact, the more narcissistic they were, the more the trick seemed to work.

"I think what's going on here is that people who are low on narcissism are already responding to people—telling them what to do isn't going to increase their empathy any further," Hepper said. "But the higher on narcissism you get, the less empathy [you feel]. By instructing them to think about it, it activates this empathic response that was previously much weaker."


Read about the other two components of the three-part study at The Atlantic.

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What you define as narcissism Mr. Gonzalez, I define as recognizing the fundamental truth of the world we live in. If that is narcissism, then consider me a narcissist.

It is entirely reasonable, nay it is a veritable ethical and moral imperative that I personally should consider myself first, over and above any feelings of empathy or good will that I would feel towards anyone else.